口述：妻子艾滋病后我要更爱她(图)
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如果你的妻子不幸感染了艾滋病，你还敢跟她在一个锅里吃饭吗，还敢跟她拥抱、接吻吗，还敢跟她睡在一张床上吗？如果她的病情暴露，你还有勇气以她丈夫的身份，出现在亲戚、朋友的面前吗？
妻子艾滋病后我要更爱她
艾滋病这个凶险的恶魔，不知道拆散了多少原本恩爱的家庭，造成了多少家庭的悲剧！有人说，一对夫妻中如果有一方感染了艾滋病，他们的婚姻100%会崩溃！
河南汉子陈海洋的妻子4年前不幸感染了艾滋病，但是他却没有选择逃离，而是勇敢地留在妻子的身边照顾她。难道他就不怕艾滋病吗？到底是什么原因让他做出了这样的选择呢？……
生死考验：艾滋病突然降临幸福家庭
今年37岁的李兰兰是河南省上蔡县城南关人，中学毕业后，她在县城开了一家花店。18岁生日那天，她经朋友介绍认识了大她一岁的陈海洋。小伙子是刘庄人，高中毕业后跟着舅舅在县城某建筑公司打工。他对李兰兰一见钟情，一有空就跑到她那里献殷勤，但李兰兰不为所动，直到发生了这样一件小事。
一个冬天的下午，陈海洋用自行车驮着李兰兰去距县城几公里外的一个村子看戏。不料回来时，自行车的链条断了，没法骑了。乡村的土路凹凸不平，李兰兰穿着高跟鞋走路很不舒服。陈海洋见状，就让她坐在车上，由他推着走。李兰兰觉得他这样太辛苦了，就推辞说：“我又不是没有腿，走就行了。”不料陈海洋回答说：“你就让我推着你走吧，从看见你的第一天，我就下定决心，这辈子我就娶定你了！我会像宠小公主一样宠着你，决不让你受半点委屈！”
那天，陈海洋硬是将李兰兰推回了家。虽然天气寒冷，但是他却累得满身大汗，连棉衣都湿透了，李兰兰非常感动，终于向他敞开了心扉……
1990年春节，两人经过5年恋爱后，幸福地结合了。那时，陈海洋已经开始承包工程，收入不错。李兰兰干脆关了花店，专心在家当起了家庭主妇。两年后，儿子的出生为这个富裕幸福的家庭，增添了更大的欢乐。谁也没有想到，灾难会在这时降临。
2000年4月12日上午，李兰兰正在家里为丈夫、儿子搓洗内衣时，忽然晕倒在洗衣盆边。家人急忙将她送到县人民医院救治。医生检查后，说可能是劳累过度所致，休息休息就行了。
陈海洋听说妻子病了，急忙从工地赶到医院。得知医生的诊断后，他感到非常歉疚。从医院回家后，他就把家务都揽了过去。由于县城离家不是太远，他白天在工地上忙，晚上则回来做家务，并坚决不允许妻子再干活。但是调养一段时间后，李兰兰并没有好转，而且时常发烧，四肢无力，还伴随有拉肚子现象。
一天，李兰兰去村里诊所买治拉肚子的药时，医生怀疑她感染了艾滋病，建议她赶快去查一下。她一听就吓傻了！当即跑到县医院去做HIV检查。
检测的结果是阳性！李兰兰当时还不知道“阳性”意味着什么，追着大夫一直问。医院的一个护士悄悄地把她拉到一边解释说：“‘阳性’就是说你是个艾滋病毒携带者，但还不一定就发展成病人了， 不过一次检测也未必正确，明天你和你家人一块儿来再检测一次吧。”
这时，李兰兰才听明白了，她顿时眼前一黑，当即晕倒在地。醒来后，她的脑子里只有一个念头：到丈夫的工地去，去见丈夫！
正在工地干活的陈海洋见妻子一脸泪水地跑来了，大吃一惊！他急忙给她找来一把椅子，让她坐在椅子上，然后不安地问道：“兰兰，出什么事了？”李兰兰只是流泪，一句话也说不出来，吓得陈海洋直摇她的肩膀：“到底出什么事了？快说，天大的事有我呢！” 李兰兰这才憋出了一句话：“你跟我去医院检查。”她现在最关心的是丈夫是不是也感染了艾滋病。
到医院后，陈海洋才知道妻子感染了艾滋病，也忍不住放声大哭。那天，他没有做检查，而是拉着妻子急忙往家赶——两人现在最担心的是儿子！
他们走到半路，李兰兰就跟丈夫下了车。此时，他们已经没勇气回家了，而且也不能这样回家——如果让村里人知道的话，那他们的儿子今后就会遭受可怕的歧视，可能连个小伙伴都没有……
夫妻俩在路旁一直坐到天黑，才相互鼓励着回到了家。第二天，他们带着儿子赶到了县医院，一家三口全部做了一遍HIV检测。结果出来后，李兰兰悲喜交加：悲的是她仍然是阳性，喜的是儿子和丈夫全是阴性！
情比金坚：让我们一起抵抗艾滋病
自从确诊自己感染了艾滋病以后，李兰兰的精神就濒临崩溃了……
那时候，因为卖血的原因，上蔡县一些农村开始大规模爆发艾滋病。在突如其来的灾难和恐慌面前，很多原本淳良的村民们良知崩溃了。夫妻双方只要有一方被感染的，婚姻很快就破裂了；即使不破裂的，也肯定分居，事实上被遗弃了。
口述：妻子艾滋病后我要更爱她(图)(2)
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有一年夏天，在距李兰兰家十几公里远的一个村庄里，有7个女人同时被查出感染了艾滋病，其中3个人的丈夫是健康的。结果，这3个女人都被丈夫无情地抛弃了。她们被病魔折磨，又遭遇婚姻不幸，不到一年就相继死去了。最悲惨的是一个24岁的小媳妇，没有生过孩子，不仅丈夫不理她，连娘家人也不管她，死后好几天才被人发现，脸都被老鼠啃去了一小半。 就在李兰兰被确诊的前几个月，村里程某的妻子也被查出感染了艾滋病，他马上一走了之。妻子去找他，他厌恶地说：“你既然得了这个病，那就等于判了死刑了，你还活着干吗？你死了一家人都干净啦！”她回到家就喝农药自杀了。娘家人虽然知道她死得冤，但却因为害怕感染艾滋病而没有人敢去给她料理后事……
这些年来，李兰兰目睹了这么多的艾滋病悲剧，心里早就惊悸万分，感到自己也不可能有好结局。
陈海洋对这些悲剧也是戚然在心，但他不想让类似的悲剧也发生在他心爱的妻子身上。他仔细地分析妻子感染艾滋病的途径。医生告诉他艾滋病只有三种传播途径：母婴传播、血液感染和性行为。
妻子显然不是母婴传播；他本人是健康的，妻子作风正派，而且整天生活在家人的眼皮底下，根本没有红杏出墙导致感染的可能；唯一的可能就是血液感染。她虽然没有输过血和卖过血，但是平时生病时就是在附近的小诊所打针吃药。这些诊所条件差，打针都没有一次性针头。她肯定是在这些小诊所打针时感染上的！可是，时间已经过去很久了，又没有确切的印象，想追究诊所的责任，已经没任何根据了……
陈海洋虽然也很害怕艾滋病，但是面对行将崩溃的妻子，他不得不强打精神，鼓励自己挺住，担负起一个丈夫的责任。为了稳妥起见，他把儿子托付给父母照顾，然后放下生意，一心一意在家照顾妻子。
陈海洋以前从来没有下过厨，对做饭炒菜一无所知，他就从熬稀饭学起，逐步把自己变成“家庭煮男”。妻子爱吃蒸卤面，他就学着蒸，蒸得不成功就自己吃，蒸出了好味道，就端到妻子面前；妻子喜欢花，他每隔几天就买一把鲜花插在床头……
李兰兰需要打针，陈海洋再也不敢让她在村里的小诊所打针了，而每天去县城的大医院又太麻烦，他就向县医院的护士学起了打针。半个月后，陈海洋就开始独立给妻子打针和挂吊瓶。给艾滋病人打针，对于一个没有受过专业训练的人来说，是一件很危险的事，但是他却没有退缩。他心中明白，自己如果表现得很惧怕，就会摧毁妻子生活的信念！
一些亲友怂恿陈海洋离婚，他们劝他说：“艾滋病是一个无底洞，任你有多大的家产，都要耗光，而且最后还是难逃一死；万一把你也给传染了，就啥都完了……”但是，陈海洋却不为所动，说这种事他是万万不能做的！
可是，陈海洋越是这样情深义重，李兰兰心中就越感到难受。她已经被艾滋病吓破了胆，因为担心丈夫被感染，她从此不再亲近丈夫。以前，丈夫从外面一回家，她就会勾着丈夫的脖子撒娇，可现在她不允许丈夫再碰她，而且要求丈夫与她保持三尺以上的距离；晚上坚持与丈夫分床而睡；吃饭时，她坚持用公筷，用过的碗筷都要放在锅里高温煮过才放心……
在沉重的心理压力之下，不到三个月，她就变得憔悴不堪。她觉得再也不能拖累丈夫了，决心离婚。
2000年中秋节前夜，李兰兰含着眼泪向丈夫提出了离婚的要求。陈海洋听后，愣了一下，然后猛地一把抱住妻子，郑重地说：“兰兰，你不能这样折磨自己，你折磨自己的同时也是在折磨我！我们俩早就是一体了，没有你我也活不下去！”李兰兰尖叫着挣脱丈夫的怀抱，哭着说：“可我不想连累你，我已经不能陪你走完一生了，从查出病的第一天到现在，我一直在考虑离婚，海洋，咱们就离了吧。” 陈海洋坚决地说：“我以前说过要让你过得像个公主，这句话是永远算数的。你想让我做缩头乌龟啊，办不到的！”
虽然丈夫坚决拒绝了，但是李兰兰想要离婚的念头却始终没有消失过。她开始变着法子跟丈夫吵架，想逼他离婚。
一天晚上，当陈海洋又一次拒绝“离婚”时，李兰兰暴怒起来，她抄起一把剪子就去剪床头那束丈夫送给她的红玫瑰，不想一不小心把自己的手指剪破了，顿时鲜血淋漓。陈海洋急了，他一手抓住妻子的手，一手夺过剪刀便扔了出去。
李兰兰看见自己伤口的血流了丈夫满手，顿时吓坏了，尖叫着让他快放开自己去洗一洗。陈海洋没有理会，而是帮她包扎好伤口，并等她情绪稳定下来后，才起身去清洗自己手上的血迹。当冰凉的自来水淋到手上时，陈海洋这才发现自己全身都在发抖，他不停地安慰自己说，没事的，没事……
当他洗完手回来，妻子已经哭成了泪人，她责问陈海洋：“你不知道那样很危险啊？你就不怕感染？”陈海洋淡淡地说：“感染就感染吧，那样我们就平等了，你也就不会胡思乱想了。你要真不在了，那我还有啥活头。”
丈夫的这句话，终于把李兰兰震醒了。她一直以为丈夫是为了责任而照顾她，她以为自己这样做就能给丈夫一个解脱。但是现在她才真正明白了，自己在丈夫心中有多重要，如果失去她，他可能会更痛苦！
那天，李兰兰想了很多，一边想一边流泪，感染上艾滋病毒是不幸的，但遇上如此忠厚的丈夫又是万幸的。就算是为了丈夫，自己也要振作起来……
笑傲命运：艾滋病魔夺不走我们的幸福
为了战胜艾滋病，陈海洋带着妻子，先后远赴北京、武汉和上海等地治疗。其实，上蔡当地对艾滋病人的治疗有优惠政策，很多药物都是免费供应的。但是，陈海洋总觉得外面大城市的医疗技术要先进一些，妻子求生的希望更大。
在寻求治疗的同时，夫妻俩逐渐了解了许多艾滋病的常识，知道了虽然艾滋病很可怕，但只要积极治疗，保持良好的生活习惯，生命还是能延长很久的，甚至可能存活几十年。这给李兰兰夫妻俩带来了很大的安慰，也给他们带来了生活的信心！
但是，他们的生活还是有一道阴影：为了防止感染陈海洋，两人一直极力避免亲热，没有接吻，没有性生活，甚至连拥抱也很少，这对于正处于壮年的恩爱夫妻来说，是一件多么无奈而又多么残忍的事啊！
2001年4月，李兰兰在上海传染病医院治疗时，该医院的专家明确地告诉他们：一块儿吃饭，拥抱，接吻，都不会导致艾滋病毒感染；没有防护的性生活感染艾滋病的几率也是比较低的，大约是1/700，如果使用质量可靠的安全套，就完全可以避免感染。
得到专家的指点以后，夫妻俩真是惊喜万分。然而，劫后重生的第一次性生活，他们还是忐忑不安，李兰兰要求丈夫戴了两个安全套仍有些不放心。几天以后，她硬是拉着丈夫去做了一次检测，证实平安无事后，才彻底放下心来。至此，他们才真真切切地认识到：艾滋病确实不是人们想象中的那么可怕！
然而，艾滋病毕竟是凶恶的！虽然李兰兰和丈夫满怀信心，但是她的病情却在不断恶化，人迅速消瘦下来，体重最轻的时候，不足35公斤。直到2002年夏天，她的病情才稳定下来。此时，陈海洋十几年的汗水换来的几十万元积蓄，都已经化为乌有……
为了挣钱给妻子继续治疗，陈海洋不得不重新出去承包工程。令他痛苦的是，因为他是艾滋病人的丈夫，他遭遇了很多不公平的待遇。
虽然陈海洋刻意隐瞒妻子患艾滋病的事实，但还是被许多人知道了内情，这给他的生意带来很大的被动。结果，很多老板都不愿意跟他打交道了，自然也就不愿意把工程承包给他了。有一次，他好不容易争取到一个小工程，当他兴致勃勃地去找负责人签合同时，走到半路就接到对方的电话，说工程已经给别人了，非常抱歉，以后有机会再跟他合作。后来，他才知道是他的竞争对手跟该负责人说，陈海洋老婆有艾滋病，他说不定也有，你跟他打交道很危险，于是那位负责人立马就变卦了。
陈海洋禁不住潸然泪下，他不是伤心被人抢了生意挣不到钱，而是担心妻子一旦病情恶化，他手中如果没钱，就只能眼睁睁地看着她死……
无奈的陈海洋只好厚着脸皮托舅舅出面帮忙揽工程。可是揽到了工程后，他又面临着找不到工人的尴尬。有些胆小的工人知道情况后，不敢再跟着他干了；而他昔日的一些朋友，也对他敬而远之。渐渐地，陈海洋在日常交往中，养成了这样一些习惯：不主动约人见面，不与人握手，不给人敬烟，尽量不跟别人一起吃饭，不与人碰杯……
直到两年后，在有关部门的努力下，艾滋病的防护知识得到普及，人们对这种病有了比较科学的认识之后，陈海洋的处境才有所好转，生意稍微顺了一些。
2004年8月17日，陈海洋在接受笔者采访时，充满信心地说：“这两年来，我爱人的病情一直很稳定。我目前最大的任务就是挣钱，多为她准备些医疗费。现在的科技这么发达，相信不久就能找到治愈艾滋病的办法，我和爱人一定能够挺到那一天！”
同时，他以一个艾滋病人丈夫的身份，告诫天下的夫妻：一个人如果感染了艾滋病，那种从肉体到精神的双重煎熬，确实是非人的折磨！不过，艾滋病虽然凶险，但也并不是那么容易传染，只要防护得当，就能避免被感染。所以，你的爱人如果不幸感染了艾滋病，你千万不要惊慌，更不能逃离。那样，她(他)的命运将会很悲惨。只有夫妻同心努力，才有战胜艾滋病的希望……
Oral: AIDS wife I love her more (Chart)
07 years http://www.sina.com.cn 2009 on 22:29 Qianlong Net 13 day
Unfortunately, if your wife is infected with AIDS, do you dare to tell her to eat it in a pot, dare to hug her, kiss you, dare to sleep with her on a bed in it? If she is exposed to the disease, you have the courage to her husband's status in the relatives, friends in front of it?
AIDS wife I love her more
AIDS, the danger of the devil, I do not know how much to break up the original love of family, resulting in the number of family tragedy! It has been said that a married couple if one party is infected with AIDS, 100 percent of their marriage will collapse!
Henan man's wife, Chen ocean 4 years ago, unfortunately, infected with AIDS, but he had no choice but to flee, but the courage to stay in his wife's side to take care of her. Is he not afraid of AIDS? What are the reasons in the end so that he made such a choice? ... ...
The test of life and death: the sudden advent of AIDS and happy families
LI Lan-lan this year is the 37-year-old customs of Henan Province Chengnan Shangcai the secondary school after graduation, she opened a flower shop, the county seat. 18-year-old birthday, a friend introduced to her by her great-year-old Chen ocean. Liuzhuang man who is, along with his uncle after graduating from high school in the county to work in a construction company. LI Lan-lan he was love at first sight, one time she went there on the gallant, but unmoved LI Lan-lan, until the occurrence of such a trivial matter.
A winter afternoon, a bike loaded with marine Chen LI Lan-lan to county town a few kilometers away from a village outside the theater. But back when the bike chain broken, unable to ride the. Rugged dirt roads in villages, LI Lan-lan wearing high heels to walk very uncomfortable. Chen marine seeing this, let her sit on board, who推着走. LI Lan-lan feel that he's too much work to do on the decline, said: "I'm not no legs, walking on the list." But the ocean Chen replied: "You let me push you away from the first day to see you, I will determined to marry in this life I will be on you! I would like a pet, like a small princess宠着you will never let you feel wronged by the slightest! "
On that day, LI Lan-lan Chen will simply push the ocean back home. Although the cold weather, but he was covered with sweat so tired, even the clothes are soaked, LI Lan-lan was very moved, and finally opened its heart to him ... ...
Spring Festival in 1990, the two fall in love after 5 years, the combination of well-being. At that time, Chen marine works contract has already begun, with decent income. LI Lan-lan simply close the shop, to concentrate when a housewife at home. Two years later, his son's birth for the prosperity and well-being of the family, adding a greater joy. No one thought, disaster will come at this time.
April 12, 2000 morning, LI Lan-lan is the home for her husband, son, underwear搓洗suddenly fainted while in the laundry basin. Family rushed her to the county people's hospital. After a medical examination that may be caused by overwork, rest breaks on the list.
Chen told his wife was sick marine, hastily rushed to the hospital from the site. That the doctor's diagnosis, he was very sorry. After returning home from the hospital, he had taken home all of the past. Since the county is not too far away from home, he is busy during the day in the site at night to come back to do the housework, and resolutely not allow his wife to work again. Nursed back to health after a period of time, however, has not improved LI Lan-lan, and often fever, body weakness, and diarrhea accompanied by the phenomenon.
One day, LI Lan-lan governance to the village clinic to buy medicine diarrhea, doctors suspect that she is infected with AIDS, suggested that she go check. She scared silly on the one! Immediately went to the county hospital to check to do HIV.
Test results are positive! LI Lan-lan did not know was "positive" means that what has been chasing the doctor asked. A hospital nurse quietly pulled her aside to explain that: " 'positive' means that you are living with HIV, but not necessarily develop into a patient, but may not be the first detection is correct, tomorrow you and your family a child to the time before re-testing. "
At that time, LI Lan-lan only listen to understand, before she became a black, immediately collapsed to the floor. Woke up, her mind only one idea: to her husband's site to see her husband!
Chen is the site work face the ocean tears to see his wife came, and surprise! He hurried to her and got a chair, let her sit on a chair, and then disturbed asked: "lamlam, What happened?" Just tears LI Lan-lan, is also unable to say a word, the scared straight marine Chen shaking her shoulders: "What happened in the end? fast that there is a big thing I do!"憋出LI Lan-lan is a saying: "You told me to go to the hospital to check." She is now most concerned about is the husband is not infected with AIDS.
To the hospital, Chen the ocean to know his wife is infected with AIDS, can not help but cry. On that day, he did not do inspections, but pulled out his wife hurried to the house - the two most worried about now is her son!
They went halfway, LI Lan-lan husband like a car. At this point, they have not the courage to go home, but also can not go home - if one knows the village, then their son will suffer the terrible future discrimination, may have not even got a small ... ...
The couple sat down in the street has been dark, only each other to encourage the return home. The next day, they arrived with the son of the county hospital, a family of three all HIV testing done again. The results came out, LI Lan-lan悲喜交加: sad is that she is still positive, hi is the son and husband are all negative!
Situation than the Jin: Let us work together against AIDS
Since the confirmed infected with AIDS after their own, LI Lan-lan on the verge of the collapse of the spirit of the ... ...
At that time, because the causes of Blood, Shangcai some large-scale outbreak of AIDS in rural areas. In the sudden disaster and panic before the sun had a lot of good conscience of the collapse of the villagers. As long as both spouses are infected with one of the parties, the marriage was soon broken; if not broken, certainly separated, in fact, has been abandoned.
Oral: AIDS wife I love her more (Figure) (2)
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One summer, LI Lan-lan away from home more than a dozen kilometers away in a village at the same time there are seven women were found infected with AIDS, of which 3 individuals are healthy husband. A result, three women have been mercilessly abandoned her husband. They were tortured by the disease, but also the unfortunate experience of marriage, less than a year have died. The most tragic is a 24-year-old daughter-in-law, there is no生过孩子, not only to ignore her husband, even her own family and no matter who, after the death of several days was found, turned out to be a rat eating a small semi.
LI Lan-lan was diagnosed in the first few months, the wife of a village-way has also been found infected with AIDS, he immediately away. Look for his wife, he said with disgust: "If you had the disease, it is tantamount to sentencing him to death, and why you still alive? Do you have a dead clean it!" She returned home on a suicide喝农药. Although parents know that she died injustice, but because of fear of HIV infection and no one dare to go to her funeral dishes ... ...
Over the years, LI Lan-lan witnessed so many tragedies of AIDS, heart惊悸very long time ago, feel that they can not have a good outcome.
Chen is also the tragedy of the oceans to these戚然in mind, but he did not want to let a similar tragedy occurred in the body of his beloved wife. His wife, a careful analysis of the way AIDS. Doctors told him only three routes of transmission of AIDS: mother to child transmission, blood infection and sexual behavior.
Mother to child transmission is obviously not his wife; he is healthy, the wife upright style, and all day under the eyes of family life, there is no affair may lead to infection; may be the only blood-borne infections. Although she has lost blood and had to sell blood, but the illness is usually small clinics in the vicinity of an injection medication. These clinics are poor, do not have a one-time injection needle. She certainly is in these small clinics infected injection on! However, time has been a long time, and it does not exactly impressed, I would like to pursue the responsibility of the clinic, has not any of the ... ...
Chen is also very afraid of the ocean while AIDS, but the collapse of the face to be his wife, he had to强打精神to encourage their own hold on, take on the responsibility of a husband. In order to secure the sake, he entrusted to the parents to take care of his son, and then lay down their business at home to take care of his wife wholeheartedly.
Chen Ocean had never been under the kitchen and knew nothing about cooking on the cooking, he would learn from the boiled rice gradually transforming itself into "the family man and cook." Steamed卤面favorite wife, who schools the steaming, steaming is not successful on their own to eat, steamed out of good taste, it ended in front of his wife; wife like to spend, he bought a few days every plug in the bed of flowers ... ...
LI Lan-lan need for injections, Chen oceans no longer afraid to let her small clinic in the village injection, and every day to the county's major hospitals and too much trouble, he would to the county hospital's nursing schools has been shot. After half a month, Chen marine wife began an independent injection and linked to the bottle. To AIDS injections, for a professionally trained people, is a very dangerous thing, but he did not flinch. In his mind that if the performance of their very afraid, it will destroy his faith in life!
Chen instigated a number of friends and relatives of marine divorce, they advised him to say: "AIDS is a bottomless pit, how much do you have any property, must be exhausted during, and not be able to escape a dead end; in case you have to spread, it啥都the end of ... ... "However, Chen has refused marine, said he was never such a thing can not do!
However, Chen-yi love the ocean so the more weight, LI Lan-lan hearts feel more uncomfortable. She has been HIV ourselves, for fear that her husband was infected, she no longer close to her husband. Previously, a husband to return home from the outside, she will撒娇勾着husband's neck, but now she does not allow再碰her husband, but also with her husband to keep more than three feet distance; evening and her husband insist on bed and sleeping hours; dinner, she insisted to use communal chopsticks, used on the pot should go before high-temperature cooked at ease ... ...
In a heavy psychological pressure, less than three months, she has become extremely emaciated. She felt that her husband can no longer be a drag, is determined to divorce.
Mid-Autumn Festival Eve in 2000, LI Lan-lan husband with tears in her eyes raised to the request for divorce. Chen hear the ocean, a bit distracted, and then suddenly a clinging wife, solemnly said: "lamlam, you can not torture myself this way, you are also suffering in their own tortured me! Long been two of us together, and there is no I also live without you! "get rid of LI Lan-lan screaming her husband's embrace, tears, said:" I do not want to put to you, I can not accompany you through life, from the first day of the disease found up to now, I have been In considering a divorce, the sea, away from us on it. "marine firmly Chen said:" I have said before to let you live like a princess, this is never meant it. you want me to do chickened out ah , impossible! "
Although strongly rejected by her husband, but wants to divorce the idea of LI Lan-lan did not disappear too. Change the way she began to quarrel with her husband, I would like to force him to divorce.
One night, when the ocean again refused Chan "divorce" when, LI Lan-lan with fury, she went to cut three inside the room used a bedside把剪子her husband gave her the bundle of red roses, do not want to accidentally cut his finger broken , bloody immediately. Chen marine emergency, and he single-handedly seizing the hands of his wife, single-handedly grabbed the scissors will be thrown out.
LI Lan-lan to see their own blood the wound hand over her husband, suddenly terrified, screaming to let him wash his own快放开a wash. Chen did not care about the ocean, but a good wound dressing to help her and to stabilize her mood before washing their hands up to the blood. When the cold water poured into the hands of time, Chen marine is found themselves in the shivering body, he kept comforting myself that's all right, all right ... ...
Hand back when he finished, his wife has become the cry tears, she asked Chen ocean: "You do not know very dangerous as ah? You are not afraid of infection?" Chan marine lightly said: "The infection on the infection now, as we equal, you will not thinking of. You have to really gone, then there is what I live first. "
This husband, and finally to the震醒LI Lan-lan. She always thought her husband was to take care of her responsibilities, she thinks he will be able to do so to the husband of a relief. But now she really understands, and their hearts how important her husband, if she lost, he may be more painful!
On that day, like a lot of LI Lan-lan, one side would like to shed tears for people living with HIV is unfortunate, but so honest when the husband is fortunately. Even if it is to her husband that he should take heart ... ...
笑傲fate: AIDS does not take magic away the well-being of our
In order to fight against AIDS, Chen ocean with his wife, has traveled to Beijing, Wuhan and Shanghai therapy. In fact, Choy local people on AIDS treatment, preferential policies, many drugs are supplied free of charge. However, Chan felt the ocean outside the major cities of advanced medical technology to some, his wife hope to live more.
At the same time in seeking treatment, the couple get to know a lot of AIDS knowledge, know that although AIDS is terrible, but as long as active treatment, and maintain a healthy lifestyle or to extend the long life and may even survive for decades. LI Lan-lan This couple is a big relief, and also give them confidence in life!
However, they still have to work together in the shadow of life: In order to prevent infection Chen oceans, the two have been hard to avoid affectionate, no kissing, no sex life, and rarely even embrace, this love is in the prime of life husband and wife is a pieces of how helpless and how cruel thing ah!
April 2001, LI Lan-lan in the Shanghai hospital treatment of infectious diseases, the experts of the hospital told them: eating together, hugging, kissing, do not lead to HIV infection; there is no sex life and protection of the probability of HIV infection is relatively low, about 1 / 700, if the quality of condom use on infection can be avoided completely.
Get expert advice, the couple was very pleasantly surprised. However, after robbing the first one-time renewal of life, they still uneasy, LI Lan-lan asked her husband to wear two condoms are still not assured. A few days later, she simply pulled her husband to do a test later proved safe before they lay down their heart to complete. At this point, be absolutely sure they understand that true: AIDS is not really imagine people in that terrible!
However, AIDS, after all, is ferocious! Although the LI Lan-lan and her husband with confidence, but her condition was deteriorating rapidly wasting people down, when the lightest weight, less than 35 kg. Until the summer of 2002, her condition was stabilized. At this point, Chen marine sweat more than a decade in exchange for a few hundred thousand dollars of savings have been lost ... ...
In order to earn money for further treatment to his wife, Chen had to go out marine works contract. That he is suffering because he is the husband of AIDS, he encountered a lot of unfair treatment.
Although Chen ocean AIDS deliberately concealed the fact that his wife, but many people know the inside story of the business that gave him a great deal of passive. A result, many employers are reluctant to deal with him, and naturally did not want to project contract to him. On one occasion, he managed to secure a small-scale projects in high spirits when he signed when the person in charge to find, halfway up on the receipt of each other's phones, said the project has been to others, and very sorry, but after an opportunity to talk to him. Later, he knows his competitors with the official said, Chen marine wife has AIDS, he might have, do you deal with him very dangerous, so the person in charge immediately on the break an agreement.
Chen could not help but have tears of marine, he is not a sad business has been robbed of any money earned, but worried about his condition to deteriorate as soon as his wife, his hands if the money can only sit and watch her die ... ...
Chen marine helpless uncle had the cheek to come forward to help care package project. But get to the project, he is faced with the embarrassment can not find workers. Some timid workers aware of the situation, he did not dare to follow; and some of his old friends shunned him. Gradually, Chen ocean exchanges in the day-to-day, developed a habit of this kind: some people do not take the initiative to meet, shake hands with people, do not give敬烟, try not to eat together with others, and people do not clink ... ...
Until two years later, the efforts of the departments concerned under the protection of AIDS knowledge is universal, people with the disease after more scientific knowledge, Chen is the situation of the oceans by improving a number of business a little-shun.
August 17, 2004, Chen oceans in an interview with this reporter, with confidence, said: "This past two years, my wife's condition has been stable. I am the biggest task is to make money, more and more prepared for her medical expenses. The technology is now so developed, I believe that soon will be able to find a way to cure AIDS and I love the day there will certainly be able to pretty! "
At the same time, he has a husband in his capacity as AIDS, warned the world of the husband and wife: a person infected with AIDS, the kind of spirit from the physical to the double torment, torture is indeed a non-person! However, although the risks of AIDS, but it can not be easily transmitted, as long as the proper protection, you can avoid being infected. Therefore, the unfortunate event that your spouse is infected with AIDS, you should not panic, and it can not escape from. As she (he) would be tragic fate. Only concerted efforts of husband and wife, only the hope that the fight against AIDS ... ...
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