|
艾滋妈妈6年送不出健康儿子 近百家收养均告吹
http://www.huanqiu.com 2010-10-27 00:09 新华网
亚心网讯 （记者 郭玲 实习生 熊单单 杜伟达) “妈妈，你别总想着把我送走，以后我来洗袜子、洗菜，照顾你。”这是6岁的龙龙（化名）这一年里重复最多的话。他并不知道母亲是艾滋病患者，不知道将到生命尽头的母亲的苦衷。6年来，有近百户家庭表达了收养意向，多数因顾虑重重，最终打了退堂鼓。
10月24日下午，记者来到龙龙家时，他正蹲在路边捡其他小朋友丢掉的黄色“子弹”，怀里抱着一把玩具手枪，龙龙见有人来便抓着妈妈晓凤（化名）的衣角对记者说，“阿姨你不是来带我走的吧？”
晓凤说，这是每回来人龙龙都要问的话。41岁的晓凤穿着红色的外套，戴副眼镜，头发染过色，但白发依然从根部大片地长出，为了不让龙龙听到我们的谈话，晓凤让他在楼下继续捡玩具枪子弹。
屋子里，满是消毒液的味道。没有柜子，东西都堆放在墙边，一张志愿者捐献的淡绿色小书桌摆在屋子正中间，发黄的白色书包已经开了线。晓凤用衣袖抚了抚床角说，“放心坐，我才洗过，全是消过毒的。”随后自己便坐在了床边的小板凳上。
艾滋妈妈和健康儿子
2004，晓凤怀孕7个月时，在新疆医科大学第一附属医院做了全面的孕期检查，查出艾滋病。才得知同床共枕多年的丈夫有着十多年的吸毒史，注射吸毒时感染了艾滋病。
感染艾滋病的晓凤想过放弃自己和孩子的生命。医生告诉她可以通过母婴阻断技术防止孩子感染艾滋病，在长时间的考虑下，晓凤去了妇幼保健院，做了母婴阻断。
2004年5月11日，孩子通过剖腹产手术出生了，HIV检测为阴性，母婴阻断成功，孩子健康。“那时候丈夫的抵抗力很弱，2005年冬天他说想回湖北老家看看。”晓凤说，她送丈夫上火车的那天，是他们最后一次见面。半个月后，就接到婆家打来电话说，丈夫死了，并告诉她想改嫁就改嫁，不会管她和孩子。
看着健康的儿子，晓凤依然很欣慰，搬离了原来的住所，借助在朋友的房子里，母子两申请到了低保，靠着低保和志愿者的帮助维持生活。
送养因妈妈病情告吹
记者联系到一直帮助她的乌鲁木齐市妇幼保健院的医生白毅，她说，晓凤做的母婴阻断很成功，龙龙每年来做检查，体检结果显示都很健康。
每次听到这些， 晓凤忍不住憧憬儿子上学、工作、成家的情景。回到现实里，她又被眼前的问题难倒了，自己的病已发展到中后期，生命进入了倒计时，怎样才能把孩子养大？
“孩子小时候，我让他叫我阿姨，他不听话，我就打他。我得让他早点独立，不能总缠着我，这样等我死了，他去孤儿院就不会受欺负……”晓凤说，她从不在龙龙面前回避要把他送人的想法。
2008年，晓凤通过广播表达了希望爱心人士领养孩子的心愿。节目播出后，晓凤家的电话几乎被打爆，近100多个家庭表达了收养意愿，但均在详细了解了晓凤的情况后打了退堂鼓。晓凤说，以前自己不理解这些人的行为，但现在想明白了，虽然医院能为她证明孩子是健康的，但收养一个艾滋病患者的孩子，不是一般人所能接受的。
晓凤说，每来一个想要收养孩子的人，她都拿出孩子的体检单，告诉对方自己是怎么去注意细节的，但很多人在当面表示愿意收养龙龙，走后就没有音讯了。
让晓凤印象最深的收养者是位退休医生，对方也知道她的病情。“我那天很高兴，在去他家的路上，就把分离的话全说给了抱在怀里的儿子，做好了再也不见面的准备，却不想到了他家，对方就变卦了。”晓凤说，
每年的12月1日艾滋病日，就有人表示愿意收养孩子，但总是不了了之。在这母子俩的住所里，有她与儿子和一些艾滋病公益组织的合影，有与自治区、乌鲁木齐市领导的合影，也有与克林顿基金会工作人员的合影，有各种各样的有关艾滋病的资料，但他们的生活一如既往。
为了儿子好好活下去
在龙龙的家里用的最多的就是消毒液，晓凤说，不管是洗衣服还是洗被褥都要用上，一个月家里光消毒水就买两三瓶。她指着床上的被褥说，虽然自己和儿子睡在一张床上，但从来不和儿子盖同一个被子，母子俩睡觉时头都是朝两个方向。自己和儿子的东西全部都是分开放。
夏天有蚊子时，即使打死屋里所有的蚊子，晓凤都不敢睡觉，等龙龙起床上学后在睡。“有次，我坐在墙边看着龙龙，他去找邻居的小朋友玩，但他们都不理龙龙。”晓凤说，可能是有的家长知道自己的情况，告诫了子女离龙龙远点。
“我很注意的，只要出门，就算我身体不适，都会把腰板挺得直直的，抬着头，绝对不会让邻居看到我不精神的样子。”晓凤说。
一周前晓凤因肺部感染住院，其间她把龙龙寄托在一位好心人那里，看着医院里和自己同病的患者前一天还说着话，突然就去逝了，之前不怕死的晓凤， 突然想好好活下去了。“孩子身边的人都不知道他有个艾滋病的母亲，决不能让他们知道，我会定期给儿子做检查，好好照顾孩子，但不希望他受到社会的歧视。”晓凤说道。
一位一直关注着龙龙生活的志愿者告诉记者，艾滋孤儿和同龄孩子一样，需要天真烂漫的童年和少年，甚至比其他孩子需要更多的关爱。“他小时候很害羞的，现在性格变得强硬很多，如果你对他不好，他会很敏感。”这位志愿者说。
在和晓凤谈话间，龙龙回来了，他并不理会母亲的谈话内容，只在一边忙自己的事，当记者试着和他交流时，他也会很乐意的翻出自己的作业和试卷给记者看。在龙龙的听写本上，每一页的下端都有一行歪歪扭扭的字体，内容大体一致：老师辛苦了，我的眼睛看不清，龙龙都是自己默写的，希望老师多多鼓励。
龙龙说，妈妈会写错别字，他长大了可以教妈妈写字，纠正差错。
http://www.huanqiu.com 2010-10-27 00:09 Xinhua
Asian Heart Network (Reporter Guo Ling Du Weida intern bear alone), "Mom, do not always think of you send me away, after I came to wash your socks, vegetables, take care of you." This is a 6-year-old Long Long (a pseudonym) that year, the most repeated words. He did not know the mother is HIV patients, do not know the difficulties of life at the end of the mother. 6 years, hundreds of families have expressed their intention to adopt, most because of misgivings, eventually backed away to play.
October 24 afternoon, the reporter went to the Flanders family, he is squatting by the roadside picking up other children lose the yellow "bullet", a toy gun in his arms, Flanders will see someone holding my mother Xiaofeng (a pseudonym)'s clothes, told reporters, "Auntie you are not here to take me away, right?"
Xiaofeng said it was cloudy every person to be asked back then. Xiaofeng, 41, wearing a red jacket, wearing glasses, dyed hair color, but hair still grows from the roots of large tracts of land, in order to prevent cloudy hear our conversation, Xiaofeng downstairs to pick him toy gun bullets.
Room, full of the taste of disinfectant. No cabinet, things are stacked against the wall, a small desk light green volunteer donations placed in the middle of the room, yellow, white bag has opened a line. Xiaofeng ask the ask foot of the bed with a sleeve, said, "rest assured sit, I washed my hair, all are sterile." Then they sat on the bed of his little stool.
Health of mother and son HIV
2004, Xiao Fenghuai 7 months pregnant, in the First Affiliated Hospital of Xinjiang Medical University, made a comprehensive prenatal and find out AIDS. Learned that sharing a bed with her husband for many years the history of ten years of drug abuse, injecting drug users infected with the AIDS virus.
HIV Xiaofeng thought of giving up themselves and their children's lives. Doctors told her that blocking technology to prevent mother to child through a child infected with AIDS, in the long consideration, Xiaofeng went to the Maternal and Child Health Hospital, made a PMTCT.
May 11, 2004, children born by Caesarean section, HIV testing was negative, PMTCT successful, healthy children. "At that time her husband's resistance is weak, the winter of 2005 in Hubei, he said wanted to return home and see." Xiaofeng, said she sent her husband on the train the day, it was the last time they met. Two weeks later, they received a phone call to her husband's family, said her husband died, and told her to remarry to remarry, will not control her child.
Looked healthy son, Xiaofeng still very pleased and moved away home, with friends in the house, mother and two applications to the minimal needs, relying on subsistence allowances and volunteers to help maintain the life.
Adopted mom got scrapped due to
Reporter linked to has been helping her Urumqi Maternal and Child Health Hospital doctors Baiyi, she said, Xiaofeng do PMTCT very successful, cloudy to do each inspection, examination results are very healthy.
Every time I hear this, Xiaofeng can not help but look forward to his son to school, work, marriage scenarios. Back to reality, she was stumped immediate problems, and their disease has developed to the middle and late life into the countdown, how to raise children?
"The children were young, I told him to call my aunt, he did not listen, I hit him. I'll make his early independence, can not always bugging me, so and so I die, he went to the orphanage would not be bullied ... ... "Xiaofeng said that she never put him in Flanders in front of anyone to avoid the idea.
In 2008, Xiao Feng expressed the hope that by broadcasting caring people to adopt children wish. After the broadcast, Xiaofeng home phone is almost off the hook, nearly 100 families have expressed willingness to adopt, but are in the detailed understanding of the situation Xiaofeng backed away after the fight. Xiaofeng said that before they do not understand these people's behavior, but now want to see, although the hospital can prove that the child is healthy for her, but the adoption of a child with AIDS is not generally acceptable.
Xiaofeng said that at every one who want to adopt a child, she took the child's physical examination alone, tell each other how they are to pay attention to detail, but many people expressed their willingness to adopt cloudy in the face, left no audio out .
Let Xiaofeng impressed the adopter is a retired doctor, the other to know her condition. "I am very happy that day, the way to their house, put all that separated the words to the son in his arms, do a good job no longer prepared to meet, but not thought of his family, the other to do an about face." Xiaofeng said
The annual AIDS Day December 1, some people expressed their willingness to adopt a child, but always let the matter rest. Mother and son in this home, there is her son and some AIDS organizations, public interest group photo, with with the autonomous region, Urumqi, a picture of the leadership, but also with the Clinton Foundation staff photo, there are a variety of information on AIDS , but their lives as always.
In order to live a good son
Home in Flanders is the most used disinfectant, Xiaofeng said that, whether clothes or bedding should be washed to spend a month at home to buy two or three light sterile water bottle. She pointed to bed and bedding, said although he and his son slept in a bed, but never with a quilt cover and son, mother and son are sleeping head in both directions. Himself and his son are all open-minded things.
Mosquitoes in summer, even though the house killed all the mosquitoes, Xiaofeng are afraid to sleep, so sleep cloudy after getting up to go to school. "There are times, I sat against the wall looking at cloudy, he went to a neighbor's children play, but they are ignored cloudy." Xiaofeng said that some parents may be aware of their situation, warned the children away from the Dragon Long away from.
"I note that, as long as go out, even if I am ill, will the backs very straight, head high, and will not let the neighbors see that I do not like the spirit." Xiaofeng said.
A week ago Xiaofeng hospitalization due to lung infection, during which she pinned on a cloudy hearted people there, looking at the hospital and their patients with the disease the day before said, and suddenly died, and not afraid of death before Xiaofeng, suddenly want to live on the. "Children do not know the people around him mother of AIDS, and never let them know that I do check regularly to his son, take good care of children, but did not want him to discrimination by society." Xiaofeng said.
Has been concerned about the life of a volunteer, told reporters Flanders, AIDS orphans and their peers, the need for innocent childhood and youth, even more than other children need more care. "He is very shy child, and now a lot of character to become stronger, if you do not, he will be very sensitive." The volunteers said.
And Xiaofeng in the conversation, cloudy back, he does not care about the mother's conversation, just do your own thing on one side, when a reporter tried to communicate with him, he would be happy to dig out their own operations and papers to reporters. In Flanders the dictation of this on the bottom of each page has a line crooked fonts, broadly consistent with the content: teacher hard work, my vision was blurry, cloudy are their own dictation, and hope that teachers will support and encourage.
Flanders said that, my mother would write spelling, he grew up to teach her mother to write, to correct errors. Asian Heart Network |
