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说心里话，我很爱我的老婆，跟老婆的关系尤其是性关系一直都是挺好的，结婚十多年来，我们两人总体上可以说仍属于相敬如宾与和睦相处的模范夫妻行列，平常很少吵架，就连发生口角的时候都非常少，哪怕是偶然拌几句嘴也绝不会说过头的话或是做出伤到筋动到骨的事情。

唉，要不是出现了让我至今仍然心有余悸阴影难除和后悔莫及的事情，很有可能我们这对模范夫妻会一直模范下去，直到走进金婚甚至是钻石婚的庆典。

可现在，一切的祸根都缘于我没能管好自己的裤腰带，跟着朋友出去玩在好奇心和男性荷尔蒙的驱使下，跟一个陌生的性工作者发生了“一夜情”，也许是自己做贼心虚，也许是自己在玩“一夜情”时忘乎所以根本就忘记了要做好自我保护措施，以至事隔一个多月了，我还在一直疑神疑鬼自己是不是已经被感染了艾滋病毒，总会不自觉地拿艾滋病的临床症状对照自己的不适。

问题是我不敢到医院去作全面彻底地检查，更不敢向老婆坦白交待自己的一时糊涂所犯下曾经的出轨行为。

我内心一直很内疚，感到对不起老婆，看到老婆会自觉不自觉的感到心虚甚至虚汗直冒，而且还怀疑冒虚汗就是染上性病或艾滋病的病理反应。

现在，我非常害怕老婆要求我跟她过夫妻生活，我也害怕跟老婆睡在一起自己又长时间不去碰她会被她怀疑，特别是我感到自己可能感染上艾滋病毒后就更不能碰她了，万一真的传染给了她岂不害了她？或许孩子失去父亲总比失去双亲要好许多吧？

我不止一次的想向老婆坦白交待，祈求能够得到她的原谅，也可以让她远离我这个受到污染并且已经肮脏了的躯体。我也曾想找个借口离开她，可我总是感到自己如果真的玩失踪也太不负责了，起码不能这样对待自己的老婆。

可我每次看到她的眼睛我就彻底丧失了坦白的勇气，我真的害怕老婆真的会由此离开我。

我的内心很痛苦也很纠结，我知道自己感情不忠背着老婆玩“一夜情”迟早是要遭到报应的，而如果这次真的“中招”了，起码良心告诉我不能传染给她，我不能伤了她的心再伤了她的健康。可是，夫妻之间如果长时间没有性生活肯定会成为问题的爆发点，这显然也是不行的。

所以，这些天来我一直在悔不当初，我后悔自己为什么没能坐怀不乱，没能控制着自己的冲动，以至让自己开心了一阵子，却要担惊受怕一辈子。

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俗话说：“纸是包不住火的”，假如真的如你据说的那样自我感觉很不好，一直在疑神疑鬼自己感染了艾滋病的话，想办法回避不要跟妻子过夫妻生活也算是一种消极应对的办法吧！

问题在于你玩“一夜情”的过程中忘了戴安全套了，所以，你一直在担心自己的不安全性行为会感染上性病或艾滋病，不过，这只是你自己的猜测，是否真的染上了艾滋病自己一下子是无法感觉到的，而且，艾滋病的潜伏期可以长达数年，你就算是现在到医院去检查也不一定能够查得出来。

既便如此，我还是建议你抓紧时间到医院去作专门的深度检查，千万不能讳疾忌医，同时，我也建议你还真的找机会好好跟自己的老婆坦白交待，俗话说是“一夜夫妻百日恩”，希望能以你的真诚悔过来换取老婆的从宽处理。因此，眼前你需要做的事情是：

1、到一家正规的大医院去做一次艾滋病毒的检测，不过艾滋病毒的潜伏期通常有好几年，如果你现在去查还真的不一定能够查得出来，可能需要定期检查或根据医生要求进行全面检查，以确定自己是不是真的感染上这种可怕的病症。当然，你可以选择到大城市的大医院去作检查，一来大医院的医疗条件比较好，检测结果比较可信；二来陌生的城市和陌生的大医院没有你认识的人，周边的人也不会来关注你的死活，这样，自己的心理负担就可以相对地轻一点。

2、既然无法回避那就选择走坦白从宽的道路吧，把自己一时的迷失和背着老婆做的丑陋之事如实向老婆坦白，或许老婆会看在你是初犯的份上再给你一次机会。同时，让老婆知道后可以协助你到医院进行复查，有病也可以及早医治，别真的把原本可以有办法医治的毛病给耽误成了无法逆转的大问题。更何况，看病是需要钱的，如果你不报告老婆又怎么可能有钱看病？因此，晚说还不如早说。

3、以后千万别再玩什么婚外情或是什么“一夜情”的情感游戏了，这不用我作道义上过多的说教了吧？要知道一旦被传染艾滋病就相当于被判决了死刑，最终的受害者不是别人，绝对是你自己和深爱着你的妻子和孩子。

　　 Xiao-groups: "one-night stand" after I got a "fear of AIDS disease"
2010-12-22 12:10 Phoenix
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To be honest, I love my wife, especially the relationship with his wife has been very good sexual relationship, and married ten years, we can say that they generally live in harmony is still a courteous and exemplary husband and wife ranks, usually seldom quarrel, and even quarrel when they are very small, even if it is accidentally mixed with the mouth and never will say a few words or a head injury to the tendons to make things move to the bone.

Alas, but for me there is still hard to except the shadow of fear and regret things, it is likely we will have this model couple model continues until golden and even diamond wedding into a celebration.

But now, all the seeds are due to I could not manage their waistband, along with friends went out to play in the curiosity and driven by the male hormone, sex workers with a strange occurrence of the "one-night stand", and perhaps their own guilty conscience , maybe his playing "one-night stand" when carried away simply forget to do self-protection measures, as well as more than a month later, I was suspicious that he is not already been infected with the HIV virus, always unconsciously clinical symptoms of AIDS to take control their own discomfort.

The problem is I can not go to the hospital for a comprehensive and thorough check, but did not dare confess to his wife committed by their own moment of weakness once escapades.

My heart has been very guilty, feeling sorry wife, seeing my wife may consciously or unconsciously feel guilty or even fly from sweating, but sweating is also suspected of taking sexually transmitted diseases or AIDS contracted the pathological response.

Now, I am very afraid of my wife asked me over with her married life, I am also afraid of sleeping with his wife with himself for a long time not to touch her she would be suspected, in particular, I feel I may be infected with HIV can not touch even after the her, if she really had it not spread to harm her? Perhaps the children lost their father lost both parents is better than many, right?

More than one occasion I would like to confess to his wife, praying to get her to forgive, but also allows her away from me and has contaminated a body dirty. I also want to find an excuse to leave her, but I always feel that they disappeared too if it is not responsible for, and at least can not treat his wife.

Can be every time I see her eyes I completely lost the courage to be honest, I really fear my wife will really leave me thus.

My heart is very painful too tangled, I know I love to play unfaithful wife carrying "one-night stand" is to be punished sooner or later, but if this is really "poisoned", and at least conscience tells me not to infect her, I can not break her heart again hurt her health. However, if the long time between husband and wife sex life is sure to become a flashpoint issue, which appears to not work.

So, these days I have been repent, I regret why did not Zuohuaibuluan, not able to control his own impulses, and even make them smile for a while, have to fear life.

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As the saying goes: "Paper is not hold fire", if true, as you said to feel very bad as had been infected with AIDS in their own paranoid, then do not try to avoid off married life with his wife can be considered a negative response to it!

The problem is that you play "one-night stand" in the process forgot to wear condoms, so you had to worry about their unsafe sex will be infected with sexually transmitted diseases or AIDS, but this is only your own guess, really infected AIDS can not feel themselves at once, and that the incubation period of AIDS can be several years, even if you go to the hospital now not be able to check out Richard.

Even so, I suggest you hurry to the hospital to check for depth of expertise, do not be afraid of asking the same time, I also suggest you look really good opportunity to confession with his wife, and there is "one night the couple hundred days Well, "in hopes sincerely repent to your wife in exchange for leniency. Therefore, the immediate thing you need to do is:

1, to a large hospital to do a regular HIV testing, but the HIV incubation period is usually several years, to check if you do not really have to check out, may require periodic inspection or the requirements according to the doctor comprehensive inspection to determine that they are not really infected with this terrible disease. Of course, you can choose to go to big hospitals in big cities for a check, a large hospital's medical conditions to better, more reliable test results; Secondly, the strange and unfamiliar large city hospitals are not people you know, the people around not to pay attention to your life and death, so that the psychological burden of their own to be relatively lighter.

2, since it can not avoid honest liberal choose to go the way it, to lose the moment and carrying his wife to do the ugly things truthfully confess to his wife, maybe his wife will look on your first offense's sake give you a opportunities. At the same time, let his wife know that can help you to the hospital after the review, early treatment can be sick, do not really have a way to heal the original problems to delay the big problem has become irreversible. Moreover, the doctor needs money, and if you do not report his wife, how could the money to see a doctor? Therefore, not as early as that night said.

3, after the affair never stop playing, or what any "one-night stand," the emotional game, which I do not make too many moral teachings, right? To know if the spread of AIDS to death was sentenced to the equivalent of the ultimate victim is none other than your own, and is absolutely in love with your wife and children.