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浓浓亲情照亮身患艾滋病母亲生命之旅
http://cq.QQ.com 2010年01月25日08:36 开州报
记者在一次采访中，见识了充满浓浓亲情的一家人，更感受了人间真爱。多病的父亲曾多次输血，不幸感染了艾滋病，终被病魔夺走了生命，更不幸的是，年迈的母亲也是艾滋病感染者。一家人该如何面对？
由于情况特殊，这家人不愿意接受媒体采访，在记者的再三要求和承诺下，家人终于摆起了充满人间真爱的特殊亲情故事……
服侍重病父亲三个月，最后获悉是“艾滋病”
小岚（化名）今年35岁，在一家公司上班，两年前，父亲因肝上的毛病，几次住院。为了照料父亲，小岚忙工作，忙家里，忙娘家几头跑，累得体重一下子掉了近10斤。
“家里有老人生病住院，真的会打乱一切生活的。”孝顺的小岚和两个弟弟一起，加上年迈的母亲，全家人围着一个病人忙得团团转。
突然有一天，父亲病情加重，咳血不止，医生建议要紧急输血。
输血前夕，医院按常规要进行检测，一个震惊的消息瞬间击垮了全家人，父亲HIV检测成阴性，是艾滋病感染者！
从来对艾滋病不了解，但却道听途说了很多关于艾滋病的“恐怖”谣传，小岚的一家人陷入了深深地恐慌之中，一夜之间，似乎天都垮了……几姊妹抱头痛哭之余，当老大的小岚当即决定要隐瞒这个病情，包括母亲。
屋漏偏逢连夜雨，母亲也检测出被感染
悲痛不已的小岚理智地从悲伤中走出来，“不管父亲患的啥病，都要尽最大努力医治。”父亲被转入了传染病科，几姊妹仍装着和从前一样，服侍父亲，为父亲精心制作各类合适的饮食。只是为了防止被感染，几姊妹服侍的时候，必须采取防护措施。心细地父亲开初有些不悦，一个劲地询问女儿，自己得了啥病，小岚说，是肺病感染，有传染，所以必须戴手套之类的。父亲很悲伤，也再没有言语了。
“患艾滋病的家人，很少有像这一家后人这样有孝心的。”医院的医生介绍，不少患艾滋病的家人，对待病人要么不理，要么逃避，这一家子真的很难得。后人得之实情后，一个也没闪人，仍然精心照料老人，为了能守住秘密，连特护都没请，全是几个后人亲自轮流服侍。“真的让人很感动！”医生说。
在医生的建议下，小岚的母亲随即需要进行检测，看是否被感染，听说这个建议后，小岚的心跳得噔噔直响，“要是母亲也有这个病，该怎么办？”小岚不停地在心里祈祷，祈求上帝别让他们一家遭受如此磨难。
然而世上的事情往往就这么奇怪，你越担心发生，它就真的不邀自来，“你母亲已经感染了!”医生的话犹如晴天霹雳，把几姊妹击得个个六神无主，悲伤、痛哭之余，几姊妹毅然坚强的面对。
“那段时间，既要服侍病重的父亲，还要极力隐瞒年迈的父母亲的病情，由于情况特殊，经常让我们几姊妹真不知如何是好。”小岚说，本来通过艾滋病知识的了解，作为家人，真的不怎么害怕了，但是一旦看到世俗的另类的冷眼，几姊妹的心，简直在滴血。
小岚说，印象最深的是，有一次在电梯房，一位妇女告诫另一位女性说：“注意哟，尽量莫去医院，听说有艾滋病！容易传染，得起了马上要人死。”小岚心里明白，这完全是对艾滋病的误解，但是从这里可以看出，一旦患上这个病，被世人知晓后，真的是无容身之处的。
于是护理父亲的工作，全部交给了3姊妹来共同承担。他们无怨无悔，陪床守夜，一直在医院陪伴了3个月。
父亲走了，得知真相的母亲几欲轻生
父亲的病情不断加重，卧床不起，最终，无情地病魔还是夺去了老父亲的生命。
父亲走了，但母亲必须要立即进行抗病毒治疗。由于病情的特殊，医生建议必须给母亲道明实情，加上要配合治疗，以及日常生活的注意事项。小岚扶着母亲走进了艾滋病防治办公室。
“母亲知道实情后，反映很强烈，简直不能接受。”小岚说，现在回想起母亲当时的过激言行，真的很寒心。
由于母亲没读过书，对艾滋病知识根本不了解，平时听到的全部是艾滋病的夸张谣传。母亲痛哭得几近晕死，还多次欲自杀，并固执地要搬出去一个人租房住。小岚和两个弟弟，三姊妹每天轮流在家陪母亲。当起母亲的“心理疏导员”。天天给她讲解各种艾滋病知识，小岚还买来关于艾滋病知识和艾滋病人生活的相关光碟，和母亲一起看碟子，想法设法让母亲树立活下去的信心。
“那段日子，真的不晓得是怎样熬过来的。”小岚说，回忆起那段晦暗的经历，才感觉家人团结的力量真的是可以战胜一切。想着母亲含辛茹苦带大我们几姊妹，我们又怎能眼睁睁地看着母亲用极端的方式来结束自己的生命。为了从心理上安慰母亲，感动母亲，劝勉母亲，三个子女义无反顾，抛开了一切，在关键时刻，用孝心传递着对母亲的深爱。
孝心，让患病母亲重新过上正常生活
“其实，我母亲根本不想去死，她只是担心把我们也传染了，还有，平时对艾滋病的误解，让她由恐惧到绝望”。为了安慰母亲，也为了让母亲相信日常生活接触不传染，几姊妹经常聚在一起，和母亲一起生活，一起吃饭。
“母亲劳累了一辈子，到了晚年，却被查出是艾滋病感染者，老天确实很不公”，小岚说，其实，身体的病倒没什么，关键是心里的“病”，母亲的压力特别大，她生怕周围的人知道她的病情，更担心其他人用异样的眼光对待他们一家。
如今，小岚的母亲逐步摆脱了“恐艾”的心里压力，看着几个子女为让她忙前忙后，关怀备至，孝心深深感染了她。
“人活着总要死的，不是死于这个病，就是那个病，只要老天不要我的命，我是不会主动把这条命送去的。”现在，小岚的母亲心态日益趋于正常，能积极主动配合医生，天天坚持吃药，几个后人为她专门准备合适的膳食。老人家的身体状况还不错。每天她按时出去爬爬山，在小区转转路，日子过得倒很惬意。
“现在我晓得了，这艾滋病就像患乙肝一样，没啥特别的，这人老了，你不得这个病，就会得那个病，高兴活一天算一天。”小岚高兴地说，在几姊妹的劝勉疏导下，如今母亲的心态越来越好了。
“患了这个病，人的免疫能力降低，所以，我们随时都要防治母亲别感冒了”。小岚说，如今照顾母亲，就好像小时候母亲照顾我们一样，随时提醒她加减衣服，督促吃药，讲究饮食搭配，给母亲做营养的饭菜……
“母亲是怎样养育我们的，后人也该做一些回报。”小岚安静而坦然地说。
平凡的一家人，用平凡的语言，真挚的孝心，谱写了爱的“篇章”！
Deep affection illuminate the mother's life journey with AIDS
http://cq.QQ.com 2010 Nian 01 Yue 25 Ri Kai landeszeitung 08:36
In an interview with reporters, the insights of a rich family love, family, and even the feeling of human love. Ailing father, who has blood transfusion, have unfortunately been infected with AIDS, was finally claimed his life by his illness, but unfortunately, elderly mother is also HIV-infected persons. How to face a person?
Due to special circumstances that the family was unwilling to accept media interviews, the reporter's repeated requests and commitments, the family finally swing-up full of human love story of a special affection ... ...
Serve seriously ill father for three months, was finally told the "AIDS"
Xiao-Lan (a pseudonym), 35-year-old to work at a company two years ago, his father due to liver ailments and was hospitalized several times. In order to take care of his father, Xiao-lan busy work, busy at home, her family is busy running a few head, tired suddenly lost weight nearly 10 pounds.
"Home of the elderly who have been hospitalized, all of life is really upsetting." Filial Koarashi and two brothers, together with his elderly mother, the whole family busy of turning around a patient.
Suddenly one day, their father's condition worsened hemoptysis is more than, the doctor suggested to an emergency blood transfusion.
Blood transfusion on the eve of the hospital as usual to conduct testing, a shocking news instantly knocked his entire family, his father into a negative HIV test is AIDS!
AIDS never understand, but a lot of hearsay on AIDS "terrorist" rumors, Xiao-lan, a people into a deep panic, and overnight, it seemed to have collapsed ... ... a few of the sisters cry I, when the boss of Koarashi immediately decided to hide the condition, including his mother.
A leaky house, seemingly endless, the mother is also detected in infected
Sorrow of Koarashi sense coming out from the sadness, "regardless of the father suffering from Shabing, must do their utmost to heal." His father was transferred to the Infectious Diseases Section, several sisters are still filled with as before, serving the father, in order to father elaborate types of suitable diet. Only to prevent infection, a few sisters serving time, must take protective measures. Scrupulous to the father of some initial displeasure, and features a move to ask the daughter of their own got Sha Bing, Xiao-lan said, is a lung infection, there is transmitted, and must wear gloves like that. His father is very sad, no other language has.
"Suffering from AIDS, their families, few future generations like this one are so filial piety." Hospital doctors, many suffering from AIDS, their families, to treat the patient either to ignore or avoid, this house is really hard to come by. Get the facts later generations, after a nor flash, continue to carefully care for the elderly, in order to be able to hold a secret, even the special care no request, all personally take turns serving several future generations. "It really is very moving!" Said the doctor.
The doctor's suggestion, Xiao-lan's mother, then the need for testing to see if it is infected, I heard this proposal, Deng Deng Xiao-lan's heart was straight ring, "If the mother has this disease, how to do this?" Koarashi kept in his heart to pray, pray that God will not let them suffer such an ordeal.
However, what the world will always be so strange, are you more worried that happen, it really did not uninvited, "Your mother has been infected!" The doctor then like a lightning bolt, a few sisters were hit everyone in Liushenwuzhu, sadness, crying the I, several sisters face resolutely strong.
"During that time, it is necessary to serve seriously ill father, but also elderly parents strongly to conceal the condition, due to special circumstances, often so that we really do not know what to do with a few sisters." Koarashi say they would have through knowledge about AIDS , as a family, is really less scared, but once the cold to see a secular alternative, several sister's heart, simply a drop of blood.
Xiao-Lan said that the deepest impression is that once in the elevator room, one woman cautioned another woman said: "Note that yo as far as Mozambique to the hospital, I heard that there is AIDS! Easily transmitted, can afford the soon to be died. "Koarashi hearts to understand that this is a total misunderstanding of AIDS, but it can be seen from here, once suffering from this disease has been known to the world, the really is no place to go of the Department.
So the work of his father's care, all handed over to three sisters to share the burden. They no regrets, paternity bed vigil, has been at the hospital accompanied by 3 months.
His father gone, to know the truth about her mother committed suicide Jiyu
His father's condition become heavier and heavier, bed-ridden and, ultimately, illness, or mercilessly killed his father's life.
His father is gone, but the mother must be an immediate anti-viral treatment. As a special condition, the doctor advised the mother must be given the facts Dominion, coupled to tie in with treatment, and daily life considerations. Koarashi AIDS escorted his mother walked into the office.
"Mother knew the real state, reflecting the very strong, is simply unacceptable." Xiao-lan said that it recalled her mother's then radical words and deeds, it is really chilling.
The mother has never read the book, do not understand the knowledge of AIDS, usually heard all the exaggerated rumors of AIDS. Cried the mother was almost Yun Si, but also want to commit suicide several times, and stubborn to move out of a person rents housing. Xiao-Lan, and two brothers, three sisters take turns to stay home with his mother. And became a mother's "psychological counseling staff." Every day for her to explain a variety of AIDS knowledge, Xiao-lan also bought the knowledge on AIDS and AIDS-related people live CD, and the mother to see dishes, the idea of trying to get her mother to establish the confidence to live.
"In those days, really do not know is how to survive it." Xiao-lan said, recalling that period of dull experience, it is really the strength of feeling of family unity can prevail. Thinking of his mother put up with hardships brought us a few sisters, how can we stand and watch mother extreme way to end his own life. In order to psychologically comforting mother, moved her mother, exhorted his mother, three children, turning back, set aside everything at the crucial moment, with filial piety to pass forward to the mother's love.
Filial piety, so ill mother back to lead a normal life
"In fact, my mother did not want to die, she was only worried about us also infected, and, usually a misunderstanding of AIDS, so she had fear to despair." In order to comfort his mother, and to make daily contact with the mother that is not contagious, a few sisters often come together, and his mother live together, eat together.
"Mother's tired of life, into old age, but was found of AIDS infected people, God is indeed very unfair," said Xiao-Lan, in fact, the body of the sick little, the key is heart of the "disease", the mother's stress particularly , her fear of the people around knew of her illness, but also worried that other people treat them with a strange vision.
Today, Xiao-Lan's mother, gradually got rid of the "fear of Ai," the psychological pressure, watching as several children before her busy busy, the caring, filial piety is deeply infected with her.
"Man alive, the total die, not die from the disease, that is, that disease, as long as God will not my life, I would not take the initiative to be sent to the life." Now, Xiao-lan's mother is moving towards a normal state of mind can be proactive with the doctors and take medicine every day, adhere to a few people she was specially prepared, after a suitable diet. Elderly people's health is not bad. She went out on time each day to climb the hills in the district walk around the road life can would be delighted contentedly.
"Now I know, this is like AIDS, like Huanyi Gan, lacks in particular, which were old, not the disease you will get that disease, glad to live another day to day." Koarashi pleased to say that in a few Persuaded exhorted sister, and now the mother's state of mind more and more better.
"Suffering from this disease, reduce the person's immunity, so we do not always have to control her mother caught a cold." Xiao-Lan said, now take care of his mother, like child care of their mothers, like us, ready to remind her addition and subtraction clothing, medication supervision, pay attention to diet with, to make nutritious meals for her mother ... ...
"Mother, what feeds us, and future generations should also do something in return." Koarashi quiet and said frankly.
Ordinary family, using ordinary language, sincere filial piety, composed a love of the "chapters"!
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